Is Your Family Actually Important?

“Of course my family is important. Why would you even ask that?” You immediately respond. And I’m not saying that they aren’t but I’m just wondering if you are actually treating them as importantly as you think they are? Do your actions match your beliefs? Okay, I’m confusing you. Let me explain, in sort of a roundabout way.

Susie Steiner, a nurse who cared for the terminally ill, often asked her patients a simple question as they prepared to depart this life, “Do you have any regrets?”1 Being so close to the end of their lives brought clarity to those patients who could finally understand what were really the most important parts of life.

Unfortunately none of us will live forever. But instead of waiting for this clarity to come to us as we approach the grave, we can learn from those who have gone on before us. We can learn from their mistakes so we don’t repeat them.

Spend More Time With Loved Ones

A universal regret of those dying patients was that they wished they had spent more time with the people they love. Many of the women and all of the men that Susie nursed “deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.” There were also “many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.”

Don’t let this happen to you! Our goal at Ignite Adventure is to bring families together and inspire you to put your family back on top of your priority list.

What about you? Can you truly say that your family is a priority? One way to figure out what you really value is to look at how you spend your time. Where do you spend the majority of your time? Work, watching TV, staring at your phone? If these questions are making you a little uncomfortable, then you may have some work to do. You’re going to need to make a concentrated effort to start spending more time with your loved ones. Drop the phone and walk away from the TV. I know that you can do it because deep down you’re an adventurer who prefers living life instead of just watching it.

Pursue Dreams and Happiness

Speaking of living life as an adventurer, Susie Steiner talked about not pursuing dreams and happiness as one of the most common regrets of all. “Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing it was due to choices they had made, or not made.” Don’t follow in their footsteps!

Live your dreams! And I know that this can sound cliché and a little ridiculous. How does one go about living their dreams anyway? First, they figure out what those dreams are. And then they plan ways of pursuing those dreams. Be intentional. Make a list. Schedule the fun things in your life with the people you love. Stop putting those things that matter most on the backburner.

And that includes your health. Steiner mentioned, “health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.” And there you have it, my quick plug for physical fitness. It helps you follow your dreams, have fun, and be happier.

And don’t regret not being happy. This may sound silly but one of the common regrets among the terminally ill was that they wished they had let themselves be happier. “Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice.” And it’s a choice that you can make each and every day. Choose to be happy. You can even make the everyday a whole lot more fun with a few smiles and a dash of silliness.

Ignite Adventure

We created Ignite Adventure to help our family and yours come closer together and actually have FUN! But it doesn’t just happen. You have to schedule mini adventures with your kids and spouse. You have to give your family both quality and quantity time. You have to be consistent to build relationships. And you have to make it a priority. YOU are 100% responsible for the relationship that you have with your family. It’s all up to YOU.

Your family isn’t going to magically become the most awesome family on the planet while you watch from the sidelines; you have to DO something. You have to get in there. YOU have to IGNITE adventure. And believe me, once you’ve gotten the first few embers going, a fire is just a breath away.

Need ideas on how to put your family back on top of your priority list? Ignite Adventure is here to help. Visit our growing sections on:

  • Adventure: Learn about bringing more fun and adventure into your life.
  • Relationships: Need some tips and strategies to become a closely-knit family, check out this section.
  • Parenting: Want to figure out a way to parent your children without them hating you or destroying your house? Look up our parenting section.
  • Money: I hate to say it, but your finances are affecting your family more than you know. Visit this section to find out how to manage your finances, be more frugal, build wealth, etc.
  • Fitness: It’s hard to have fun when you feel crappy. Learn how to add fitness into your already packed life (and actually enjoy it) and how to keep your kids fit too.

And don’t forget to have your kids visit our Kids Corner for fun articles, book reviews, and videos created by kids, for kids.

Is your family actually important? Of course they are. Now get out there and actually live like it. Live a life of no regrets. Live a life of adventure!

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1. Susie Steiner, “Top Five Regrets of the Dying,” Guardian, Feb. 1, 2012, www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying.